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Courtroom Tug-of-War

I’ve lived two lives. The for­mer was one rid­dled with despair, wor­ry and con­stant frus­tra­tion. The begin­ning of adult­hood for me was a bite much big­ger than I could chew. Just 22 years old, a new moth­er of twins fin­ish­ing a BA at NYU, I found myself in the mid­dle of a cus­tody bat­tle with the father of my chil­dren. It was the sin­gle worst year of my life count­ed against oth­er years: my father’s bat­tle with can­cer, his sub­se­quent death, bouts of unem­ploy­ment and roman­tic rela­tion­ships gone sour. In that year, thoughts of sui­cide were ram­pant. I for­got to eat and my weight dwin­dled down to 90 pounds. My clothes draped over my bone-thin frame like I was play­ing dress up in my mother’s clos­et. Read more at MommyNoire.com

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REVELATIONS: Finding Opportunity in Life’s Journey

We wait­ed, the man and I, out­side the court­room for paper­work to be drawn up, and a court date set. Me, sit­ting on a bench, sip­ping cold cof­fee. Him, pac­ing the floor in front of me, talk­ing on his phone to…someone…about what had just tran­spired. In that moment, I remem­bered how every area of my life is con­sid­ered, and bal­anced. Phys­i­cal­ly, I try to eat healthy, organ­ic foods, lit­tIe sug­ar; and run con­sis­tent­ly. Men­tal­ly, I feed my mind stim­u­lat­ing myself dai­ly with writ­ers like Toni Mor­ri­son and James Bald­win. My dai­ly devo­tion­albegins my day. Time spent in my Bible ends it.  Emo­tion­al­ly, I fill my down­time enjoy­ing my chil­dren, hav­ing drinks with friends –real friends. I strive to excel in my career, man­age my finances, and build a life for myself that would prove an inspi­ra­tion to oth­ers. I seek to always be ful­fill­ing a pur­pose, all the while strength­en­ing an inti­mate rela­tion­ship with the Lord, ask­ing for his guid­ance and try­ing to fol­low his lead… Read more at Ebony.com

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