FOR GENTLEMEN ONLY: How to Make a Sophisticated Drink for a Special Lady

A man’s choice in drink is a sign of matu­ri­ty. Just as a man’s abil­i­ty to dis­cern a woman’s desires comes with expe­ri­ence, his behav­ior is adjust­ed accord­ing­ly. The at-home din­ner date pro­vides an oppor­tu­ni­ty for him to show just how far he’s come in his jour­ney from a boy to a man. The man as […]

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Love, Politics and an HIV Test

I saun­tered in a black hal­ter and pur­ple peek toe stilet­tos, my sum­ma­time (sic) shoes.  I walked over to the bar, ordered a com­pli­men­ta­ry spe­cial­ty cock­tail, apt­ly named “Love,” and sipped for just a few moments before I was joined by a gen­tle­man dressed in red.  A red tie that is, one of two colors […]

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Why African-American Books Should Be Required Reading for All Americans

Black his­to­ry is not just for Black peo­ple. Just as the world is not paint­ed in “50 Shades of Grey,” and Amer­i­ca is a melt­ing pot of fla­vors, those aspir­ing to be well-cul­­tured put on their tech­ni­col­or glass­es, stepout­side their com­fort box, and expose them­selves to some­thing they may not already know.…Read more at

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[CONFESSIONS] Making Peace With My Mother (and Myself)

First, I thought I had malaria—the infec­tious dis­ease born from par­a­sitic mos­qui­toes that infil­trates blood cells result­ing in death—but lat­er learned the only par­a­site was a bun­dle grow­ing inside me that pro-life activists called a bless­ing from God, but my moth­er deemed shame­ful.  The excite­ment of spend­ing 4 months study­ing abroad my senior year of college […]

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Confessions: Lost Him Found Myself

It was in the nights I spent let­ting my tears trick­le onto my laven­der pil­lows, that I often won­dered why Apple nev­er cre­at­ed an app for heart­break.  iHurt seemed like a fit­ting name. The idea could hard­ly be nov­el in this time when any­one with inter­net access could upload, down­load, or Google all of life’s answers if they […]

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Birth Control For Men: Could it Work?

With the intro­duc­tion of the birth con­trol pill in the ear­ly 1960s, women were final­ly able enjoy the free­dom to have sex with­out the fear of an unwant­ed preg­nan­cy. But men may not be so inclined to take such a med­ica­tion. Psy­chother­a­pist and rela­tion­ship expert, Mary Pen­der Greene says, “Men in gen­er­al are very com­mit­ted to the idea […]

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