On Sobriety: The Evolution of a Drug Addict

This essay is about narcotics and other lifesaving therapies. I dated a functioning cocaine addict once and we almost got married. Al. That was his real name and I’m remembering it now because it is tattooed on my bicep and seven years removed from the relationship, I still don’t regret doing it.

The Mystery of Iniquity: Lies in the Time of Corona

The mysterious thing about beginnings is that they sometimes hide themselves, not revealing what they are until years or decades later when you can look back and see them for what they really are.

I Fell In Love Carrying Another Man’s Child

I fell in love across the Atlantic in a country more beautiful than God himself while four months pregnant with another man’s child. The first time I saw him, it was nighttime in late August, the moon a perfect sickle. My plane landed in Accra, Ghana, and the air smelled like curry spices, yam and dry […]

Submission Is For Men Too

I loved this little piece from Chris Kazi Rolle. Thoughtful and Inspiring… Sourced from ConvosWithKazi.com Contrary to popular belief, submission is for men too. It’s impossible to experience love at the deepest level without both parties being submissive. When two people give of themselves it takes the relationship higher. When only one person submits, there will always be […]

My Interview with America’s Next Top Model Winner

Late 2012, I pitched an idea to Ebony.com to get more male readers to the site. In asking men what they wanted to read about, I was getting a lot of men saying they would be interested in reading a woman’s view on different aspects of a relationship. What I was envisioning was something similar […]

Don’t Marry A Man Unless…

Don’t marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son exactly like him. I read this phrase and thought it was important to remember. So often, women create a list of things they want in a man, be it long or short, and fail to include this very stipulation. Some say they […]

REVELATIONS: Finding Opportunity in Life’s Journey

We waited, the man and I, outside the courtroom for paperwork to be drawn up, and a court date set. Me, sitting on a bench, sipping cold coffee. Him, pacing the floor in front of me, talking on his phone to…someone…about what had just transpired. In that moment, I remembered how every area of my […]

Confessions: Lost Him Found Myself

It was in the nights I spent letting my tears trickle onto my lavender pillows, that I often wondered why Apple never created an app for heartbreak. iHurt seemed like a fitting name. The idea could hardly be novel in this time when anyone with internet access could upload, download, or Google all of life’s answers if they […]